Someone who fears getting hurt in a relationship will guard their heart by hiding much of it. A fear of being rejected will cause the same, won't it? They hide in order to self-protect. Maybe one doesn't seek to hide for fear of being rejected, but puts up a brave or independent front because, secretly, they have a fear of commitment, or a fear of being vulnerable, but they aren't being themself either, because they don't want to drop their guard - they don't want to reveal the secret parts of their heart.
One could have a fear of socialising, speaking to others, speaking in front of others, making mistakes, being alone, living alone, dying alone, and so on. Whatever it is we fear, much time can be given to it as we worry about 'it', chew over it, wonder how to serve it 'today' or in 'this situation'.
Doesn't fear cause us to have a poorer quality of life?
What is life if spent in fear? How can one truly live if fear possesses a part of one's heart? Or is that fear part of one's true character...?
Is fear a power, or do we give it power?
Are we controlled by that which we fear will hurt us, or by the fear we use to worry about what may hurt us...?
What would happen if we looked fear directly in the face and told it to shut the hell up? :)
I don't know... I'm just thinking aloud here. I've closed my FaceBook account and rarely see anyone so just talking to myself really. lol. But...
Can one know real freedom in this world if one possesses some sort of fear?
Fear is debilitating, isn't it? Well, it has been for me... Perhaps it is a dis-ease that we can be healed of...
Anyway... Coffee? ;)
Well, as for me, I've seen what looking for love in 'mere mortals' can do. ;) I'm heading deeper into the source of love, knowing He won't lead me astray, he won't hurt me, and knowing, from experience with Him, that whatever fears I still possess He will relieve me of them - as I let Him... and I'm ready to let Him.